Alister Gates

I’m Alister Gates, a dedicated therapist who believes in the transformative power of compassionate, focused counselling. Whether you’re navigating the complexities of relationships or personal challenges or simply seeking a deeper connection with your inner self, my approach is tailored to support your unique journey. Located in the heart of Auckland and Maraetai, I offer both in-person and online sessions to clients across New Zealand.

Internal Family Systems and Couples Therapy

At the core of my practice is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a powerful and respectful way of understanding and nurturing the various parts of one’s psyche. IFS helps identify and address different ‘parts’ of ourselves, fostering an environment where healing can occur naturally. This model provides tools not only for relief from distress but also for profound self-awareness and inner harmony.

I also specialise in the Developmental Model of couples therapy, an approach that integrates psychological theory and practical interventions to foster the growth of both partners. This model helps couples understand their relationship dynamics better, encourages healthier communication, and supports lasting intimacy and connection.

How I work with you…

Working with me, you’ll find a safe and supportive environment where your feelings and experiences are valid and important. Whether in person or online, I strive to create a therapeutic space that feels welcoming and affirming, where every session moves you closer to your personal and relational goals. Let’s embark on this journey together, with respect, empathy, and a commitment to your well-being at the forefront.

As a counsellor and a coach I also work with men (and women) who identify and Nice Guys (and Girls). If people pleasing is getting you down, let’s talk about that too!